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Do You Yell at Yourself?

by Pete Bissonette

A friend accidentally deleted a file he had not backed up. He screamed at himself, “That was so dumb. Why do I always do this? Why didn’t I save it first?”

A couple of days later in a parking lot at a grocery store, I saw someone dramatically slam his car door yelling, “You idiot. Why did you leave the [expletive] shopping list at home?

In both cases I wished I had our Self-Love Paraliminal to hand out. Life yells at us enough without us piling on it.

It is time to permanently replace judgment and criticism with acceptance and kindness.

We have to be our own best friends. We have to love ourselves. Life is so much easier then.

Repeatedly judging yourself, ‘shoulding’ on yourself, or blaming yourself only leads to anxiety, depression, shame, fear, and other downward spirals, and it can affect and upset the people around you.

Use Self-Love and you’ll find compassion and love for yourself growing. You will become happier, healthier, more balanced, confident, and connected to others.

This will become your favorite Paraliminal of all time. You will feel so good and comforted as you listen, you’ll want to come back to it again and again.

Begin by listening to it for a week and return whenever you find you’re being hard on yourself or just need a little self-love. Hey, we all make mistakes. We all do dumb things. Let’s keep it in perspective and elevate ourselves as we move forward. To learn more about Self-Love and all our other Paraliminal programs, please click here.