First off, my posts were intended to help you, and I make no apology for any opinions given in the spirit of trying to help another.
As to esteem issues, most people have them! I know I do. You'd have to be way up the scale of self-realisation/enlightenment not to have them.
Secondly, if you had no esteem issues at all, you genuinely wouldn't care that your friend took the action she did, nor would you take exception, in any way, to what I wrote.
I will refrain from participating in this thread now, as you obviously want to hear certain things, and not others.
I wish you the best of luck in resolving your situation, and peace of mind.