The greatest gift you can give yourself is uplifting your relationship with your mother.
Today I will give you the missing link to make your relationship with your mother sparkle again. These tips from my Diamond Feng Shui personal learning course can also be used by mothers to improve relationships with their children.
This article contains the following sections:
1) Introduction: How to Make Lasting Changes
2) Mother in Chinese and Mother Symbols
3) Clear the Air between You and Your Mother
4) How to Activate Your Relationship with Your Mother
5) Conclusion
1) Introduction: How to Make Lasting Changes
The Chinese words Feng Shui mean wind and water. Feng Shui is about the flow of energy. If you have taken a hike with the wind behind you, you know how easy the miles can pass. Alternatively, if you have walked into a wind, you remember how hard it was to move forward. Well imagine your life if you have a constant breeze behind your back helping you accomplish your goals. You could accomplish things easily. You could meet new people that you want to meet without much effort on your part.
LIFE IS EASIER WHEN YOU ARE IN THE FLOW.
About 4000 years ago, the Chinese figured out how to tap into this flow. The metaphysical science they developed called Feng Shui can help you to create more happiness in any situation in your life. The Chinese believe that the amount of fortune and happiness in a person’s life is dependent on the amount of energy or chi that flows in their life. The amount of chi is influenced by three different factors that have equal importance. The factors are:
* Destiny – Who you came to be in this life.
* Human Beliefs and Actions – What you learn and how you act in the world.
* Environment – How your surroundings impact the flow of energy in your life.
Destiny and Human Beliefs and Actions are fairly difficult to change. If you have taken self development seminars or coaching sessions, you know it is not easy to change attitudes or habits in your life. The seminars or coaching sessions provide a burst of energy and things go better for awhile. But then you slide back into old patterns.
This loss of momentum is because your Environment is not supporting your new choices. If you have not improved your Environment, you are giving the universe a different message from the changes you say you want to make. Eventually you will slow down and fall back into the old attitudes and patterns.
Environment includes how the surroundings increase or decrease the flow of energy in a person’s life. Environmental factors include things like room wall colors, the direction the bed faces and types of pictures used for decoration and where they are hung. Environmental elements are relatively easy to change and can create profound improvements in a person’s life.
Focus on All Level to make significant changes, Marie Diamond believes you need to focus on all three levels at the same time. Most people focus on one level and ignore the others. Meditation enthusiasts focus on Destiny. Self Improvement Enthusiasts focus on Beliefs/Actions. And Feng Shui Enthusiasts focus on the Environment. The secret is to learn enough about all three factors so you know which factor(s) are strong and which are weak for you. The weakest factors are your missing links to success. By improving the weakest factors, you can make significant changes quickly with surprisingly little effort.
2) Mother in Chinese and Mother Symbols
Mother in Chinese
The word “Mother” in Chinese is KUN and has a second meaning of big earth. The mother is your environment; she is holding the human energy in balance with the heaven. She is the womb where the child is still connected with heaven and ready to begin to manifest on this planet.
The Chinese say that a good mother:
- Can tame the dragon
- Supports your romance
- Opens her heart for your friends
- Creates meals of abundance
Mother Symbols
The Chinese have a variety of symbols that relate to Mother energy. Several examples are listed below. Later in Section 4 we suggest putting mother symbols in various places in your home. When we use the words “Mother symbol” we are referring to any of these items. Examples of mother symbols are:
- Lady Kuan Yin. Kuan Yin is the Chinese mother of compassion (the Chinese Virgin Mary) or any mother Divine mother figure in your own religious or spiritual belief.
- A gemstone or crystal globe
- Mother with child or children image
- Hearts
- Circle of friends in stone
- The tortoise carrying her child
- All ceramics, gemstones, candles
- A bowl with fresh orange colored fruit
3) Clear the Air between You and Your Mother
Before you can celebrate Mother’s Day you need to clear the air between you and your mother so the flow of love and happiness is enhanced.
In this section, Marie Diamond includes 4 easy steps to improve your relationship with your mother.
The steps involve clearing space on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels.
General
First of all you need to know that space clearing can be done with a mother that is alive or has already passed on. Over the years there have been some situations between you and your mother that were perhaps never spoken about, some grudges, some painful words or conversations, some denials, etc.
The first step in improving the relationship with your mother is to clear the air that is between you right now. You cannot create flow and a new vibrant wind and water energy when the wind is full of dust and the water contains some dying fish and old trash cans floating around.
How Do You Clear the Air?
Here are 4 space clearing techniques. You can do them all or you can do only one or more, depending on which level you feel you really need to change with your mother. We recommend you do all the techniques in the coming days before Mother’s day. The more you clean up, the more space becomes available for a good relationship with your mother.
A. Physical Space Clearing
On the physical level there are some objects that represent Mother energy. On a Metaphysical level these objects represent your mother. In order to clean the air between you and your mother, you need to clean the air around anything that stands for mother energy.
Clean Mother’s images
Clean all the images that you have of your mother with lavender soap. Update any pictures you display of you and your mother to current images. Section 4 contains suggestions on where to place these images in your home.
Broken gifts from your mother
If you have any gifts or items that you received from your mother that are broken, get rid of them. The broken item stands for a relationship with your mother that is cracking or breaking down. It is better to not have these items in your home anymore.
Gemstones as Symbol of Motherhood
Take all your gemstones that you have and wash them in sea salt water or with lavender soap; then give them a sun bath for several hours.
Mothers Love is Clean
Place new candles in your candleholders, clean and polish your stone floors, clean up your ceramics. All of these items connect with the mother energy in your home.
Never Forget Mothers Smell
Add nice perfumes in rooms to refresh your home. Rose, jasmine or lavender work well.
B. Emotional Space Clearing
You may need to do some emotional space clearing to clear up any emotional clouds that are hanging between you and your mother.
Marie Diamond suggests you write a letter to your mother. Don’t worry, your mother will not read this letter. Only her soul will read it.
In this letter you will write all the emotional stuff you have never been able to tell her face to face. And you can go way back into your childhood. You can make the letter as long or as short as you want.
At the end of your letter you will tell your mother that you forgive her and that you ask forgiveness for anything that you did to hurt her.
You sign your letter with the affectionate name that she calls you.
On a sunny day you will burn this letter outside in a ceramic bowl. You will send it with heavenly post or Angel post to her soul. You ask her soul to receive the information in this letter. You ask that whatever her mother’s soul needs to receive will begin coming into her daily awareness. Many miracles have happened from writing and releasing letters like this. Things you wanted to talk about for so long may pop up in your conversation with her. Perhaps you will receive the answer in a dream. In any case, you are emotionally cleared from your past situations. You said your part and have opened a space for your relationship to improve
Marie Diamond Story – Mother Ignored Her for 15 Years
A few years ago I met a women whose name was Chris. Mother’s Day was approaching and we started talking about this. She told me that she had visited her mother often in the nursing home for the last 15 years but her mother never talked to her. Her mother would talk to her grandchildren or to other people present but never to her. Her mother had denied her presence for 15 years! Can you imagine how this woman felt? I suggested some emotional space clearing. She wrote her letter and sent it off the next day with Angel post. One hour after she burned the letter the head nurse of her mother’s nursing home called her and told her that her mother was screaming her name. Chris promptly went to the nursing home and ran over to her mother. For the next ten minutes her mother yelled at her expressing all her frustrations. Apparently her mother had been so upset 15 years ago that her daughter divorced that she couldn’t express her anger about it. Well she was expressing herself now and after ten minutes everything cooled down. They started to chat like in the old times and they had a wonderful Mother’s day for the first time in 15 years.
C. Mental Space Clearing
Your mother is not perfect. Sometimes we hold on to old mental pictures of our mother for much longer than you really need. Now is a good time to become aware of what we think about our mother and release thoughts that no longer serve us.
People often have fond thoughts about their mother that include love and tenderness. But let’s be honest, when your mother calls or comes to visit you, other types of mind chatter may come up.
When you think about your mother, most people have a certain expression they use. Here are some examples to consider:
- My mother, that old nagging woman
- My mother, what is happening with her again?
- My mother, I love her but I hope she doesn’t stay too long
- My mother, I love her but it’s so good that she lives far away
What is the line that comes up the most for you?
Stop reading right now and take a moment to write down 3-4 lines that your mental mind chatters about your mother. Don’t think about it. Just write down the first things that pop into your head. It is time to clear these thoughts out of your mental space. Your thoughts or what you say to yourself does not stay only with you. Your words or thoughts float away like a balloon and they get into your mother’s aura field and she will start acting as if you had actually said those things to her directly. Have you ever had a conversation in your mind with your mother and you expressed how upset you were. Then the next time you see her, she is upset and the relationship is not great. You are surprised and cannot figure out what is going on.
You probably have forgotten about your mind conversation. But her aura field received the critical thoughts and unconsciously reacts to you.
It is time to reprogram your mental programs about your mother.
Take the statements you wrote down earlier about your mother and write them again but this time in a positive way. Convert the original negative statements to their opposite.
Then print these positive statements out and hang them on your mirror so you can say these positive affirmations out loud every day before Mother’s day. Of course you can continue after Mother’s day.
If you feel like you don’t have positive affirmations about your mother, here are some examples you can start with.
Diamond Affirmations for a Better Relationship with Your Mother
My mother and I have a wonderful harmonious relationship.
My mother respects who I am and what I do.
My mother accepts my life and the relationships I have in my life.
My mother supports my soul purpose.
My mother and I always find a way to solve our problems.
D. Spiritual Space Clearing
After you have completed the exercises to clear the physical, emotional and mental levels with your mother, you may still feel there is a block between you and your mother. Some people say it feels like a mountain between my mother and me. We suggest the following visualization to complete a spiritual space clearing to remove any negative destiny that exists between you and your mother. In the east they call this negative karma between you and your mother’s soul.
Visualization
Close your eyes and sit in a relaxed position. Breathe in several times and visualize that crystal clear white light is in your whole physical body from your head to your feet. Let go of all physical tensions related with your mother. Breathe deeply in and out.
Let this crystal clear white light come in to your whole aura field that is a circle of about 3 feet around your physical body. And ask the white light to clear out the entire physic al, emotional and mental tensions connected with your mother.
Then connect with your heart and feel the light and love that is in your heart for your mother.
Visualize that you and your mother are sitting in a beautiful place in nature around a campfire. Just looking at the fire and being present from your soul.
Visualize that the fire turns violet and that you ask this violet fire of forgiveness to release the entire negative destiny between you and your mother.
You may experience some release but you don’t need to feel anything for the violet fire to complete its work. The cleansing just happens on another level of your being. When you have done this, create a golden dome of light around both of you and the violet fire and ask to manifest this release in your daily lives.
You can open your eyes and relax. You can repeat this exercise as many times as you want.
4) How to Activate Your Relationship with Your Mother
Diamond Feng Shui includes activations that are specific to areas of your home. These activations are called Space Feng Shui. Feng Shui also includes activations that vary over time based on cycles.
A. Space Feng Shui
General Mother Corner in Your Living Room
In Diamond Space Feng Shui we work with the compass. Every direction of the compass is related with a member of the family. The Southwest corner in the floor plan of your living room or family room represents the Mother corner.
When you work together with your mother in a business, the southwest corner in your office is also important.
STEPS TO FIND THE GENERAL MOTHER CORNER
To activate the general mother corner you first need to know where the southwest “Corner” or wall space is in your living room.
* Take a compass that has all 8 directions indicated on it.
* Find the center of the living room and place the compass there and line up the compass needle with magnetic north.
* Visualize a line from the compass toward a southwest direction would meet the wall. The Southwest “corner” of your living room includes wall space that surrounds the point where the Southwest line meets the wall. The exact wall area includes 22 degrees on either side of the Southwest line. You can think of the Southwest area as a pie shaped wedge with the point in the center of the room and the broad side along the wall defining a range of wall space. Sometimes the range of space includes an actual corner. Other times the range of space is along a wall. In either case we call this range of space a “corner”.
* Look at the Southwest corner and notice:
Do you have storage space or clutter or dead flowers in the General mother corner (Southwest corner)? If you do, remove it. Clutter in this area will create a difficult relationship with your mother.
What do you have hanging there as an image, a painting or a symbol? The images you have in this location need to be something that represents a good relationship with your mother.
Negative Feng Shui images
Here are some examples of images that are NOT appropriate for the Southwest area of your living room:
- An image of a woman/ man or a child alone. This image tells the universe that you don’t want a relationship with your mother.
- Winter landscape. This image tells the universe that your relationship with your mother is frozen.
- A water landscape. This image tells the universe that your relationship with your mother is emotionally exhausting.
- An image of fighting. This image tells the universe that you fight with your mother all the time.
Positive Feng Shui images
Here are some examples of images that are appropriate for the Southwest area of your living room:
- Two candles
- 2 hearts
- An image of a swan with her children
- Any image of animals with babies
- Any image that represents motherhood
- Cultural images of mothers like: Mother Mary, Kuan Yin
Marie Diamond Story – Son Verbally Attacking His Mother
A 70 year old woman in Europe had a great relationship with her 4 children and grandchildren. But with one of her sons she had a problem. He was always attacking her about her lifestyle. He was jealous about her good relationships with the other children and criticized her each time he saw her. I checked her mother corner. In the Southwest area of her living room this woman had pictures of all her children and grandchildren standing on the piano but there was no picture of this son. The only thing that was in this area connected with that son was a knife hanging on the wall. He had given her this knife year ago when he came back from a trip. And he continued verbally stabbing her each time he came in her home. She added a picture of herself with this son on the piano and removed the knife on the wall. The next time the son came to visit, their time together was totally different.
Personal Mother Corner in Your Living Room
Your personal relationship with your mother can be activated by placing a recent personal picture that includes you with your mother.
STEPS TO FIND YOUR PERSONAL MOTHER CORNER
* First you need to determine your Personal Energy Number, which I also call your personal Law of Attraction Number. This number is based on your birth date in relation to the Chinese year cycles. You can look this up in any of my courses or in Paul Scheele’s Sonic Access program. You can also get it here.
* When you have your Personal Energy Number, you can then find out where your personal mother corner is located.
Personal Energy Number 2: Northwest
Personal Energy Number 3: Southeast
Personal Energy Number 4: East
Personal Energy Number 5 Male: Northwest
Personal Energy Number 5 Female: West
Personal Energy Number 6: Southwest
Personal Energy Number 7: Northeast
Personal Energy Number 8: West
Personal Energy Number 9: North
* Take a compass that has all the 8 directions indicated and find from the center of your room where your personal mother corner is.
* Find the center of your living room and place the compass there. Line up the compass needle with magnetic north.
* Determine where your personal relationship area is located in your living room like you did with the Southwest.
For example:
If your Personal Energy Number is 9 you will find where the North is located.
If your Personal Energy Number is 2 you will find where the Northwest is located.
If your Personal Energy Number is 6 you already know where the Southwest is located.
* Look at this area of your living room and notice:
- Do you have storage space or clutter or dead flowers in your personal mother corner? If you do, remove it. Clutter in this area will create a difficult personal relationship with your mother.
- What do you have hanging there as an image, a painting or a symbol? The images you have in this location need to be something that represents a good relationship with your mother,
If you have negative Feng Shui mother images there replace them with positive ones using the same guidelines as the General Mother corner.
* Refine the activation for the personal relationship area with your mother.
Every direction of the compass is connected with an element of nature, colors, symbols, numbers and shapes.
Using the following chart you can find out what extra refinements you can make to activate the mother corner of your living room.
SOUTHWEST
Elements: Great Earth enhanced by fire
Colors: Earth tones enhanced by fire tones
Shape: Square enhanced by triangular
Number: 2
Symbols: Globe, ceramics, crystals, divine mothers
Marie Diamond Example: An image of you and your mother in a frame sitting on a table with 2 beautiful rose quartz hearts in front of it.
WEST
Elements: Small metal enhanced by earth
Colors: Metal enhanced by earth tones
Shape: Oval, round enhanced by square
Number: 7
Symbol: Metal objects, images of a lake, pictures of children, your own creations enhanced by gemstone
Marie Diamond Example: a picture of you and your mother when you were on holiday on a lake in a golden frame.
NORTHWEST
Elements: Great metal enhanced by earth
Colors: Metal enhanced by earth tones
Shape: Oval, round enhanced by square
Number: 6
Symbol: Heaven, friends, helping hands, support, male masters, friends. Metal objects enhanced by gemstones, pictures of heaven, moon, stars, planets, pictures of friends, your address book, your support system.
Marie Diamond Example: And picture of you and your mother in a golden frame with: “My mother is my best friend” on it.
NORTH
Elements: Water enhanced by Metal
Colors: Blue tones, black enhanced by metal tones
Shape: Asymmetric enhanced by round or oval
Number: 1
Symbol: Water features enhanced by metal, pictures of a road, a river, a small waterfall, an aquarium, a fountain, a symbol of a path
Marie Diamond Example: And picture of you and your mother in a blue frame with:”My mother is number 1″on it.
NORTHEAST
Elements: Small Earth enhanced by fire
Colors: Earth tones enhanced by fire tones, and turquoise
Shape: Square enhanced by triangular
Number: 8
Symbol: Globe, ceramics, crystals, Buddha’s, books, teachers Enhanced by candles and incense
Marie Diamond Example: Place books about mothers and children. The book “Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul” would be an excellent choice.
EAST
Elements: Large Wood enhanced by water
Colors: Wooden tones like green and brown enhanced by blue tones, black
Shape: Cylinder enhanced asymmetric
Number: 3
Symbol: Plants, flowers, trees, forest, family pictures, enhanced by water features
Marie Diamond Example: A picture with you, your mother and the family of your mother. Or a picture of your female ancestors
SOUTHEAST
Elements: Small Wood enhanced by water
Colors: Wooden tones like green and brown enhanced by blue tones, black
Shape: cylinder enhanced asymmetric
Number: 4
Symbol: Plants, flowers, enhanced by water features, money, money frog
Marie Diamond Example: Place here the most expensive gift you received from your mother over the last years.
SOUTH
Elements: Fire enhanced by wood
Colors: Fire tones enhanced by wooden colors
Shape: Triangular enhanced with cylinder
Number: 9
Symbol: Fireplace, candles enhanced by plants, flowers, pictures of people famous in being a good mother, pictures of joy, articles and letters of recognition, dancers
Marie Diamond Example: Place an image of a famous mother and child connection that you connect with. Or place an image of you and your mother laughing or dancing.
General Feng Shui tip:
- Don’t use plants with sharp leaves that look like knives. Plants like this will cause you to have a fight with your mother
- Do not too many Feng Shui symbols. Just place something to enhance. Imagine your home is like a body and you can give it an acupuncture treatment. One needle can do the trick. Simple decorations are the best decorations.
Understand the Deeper Meaning
Your personal relation direction gives you an understanding of how you relate with your mother on topics that may create issues. Being aware of these tendencies will help you understand and have compassion for interactions with your mother.
Each of the descriptions below is based on your Personal Energy Number. Find the description that applies to you. Learn the deeper meaning of your relationship with your mother and how you can cure the situation with activation.
Personal Energy Number 1: South
You feel that your mother doesn’t recognize you enough for who you are. You and your mother may love to sing and dance together.
Activation: An image of a mother and child dancing and singing placed in the South. If you receive a card from your mother or letters to thank you, even for a dinner party, place one of them in a golden frame in the South.
Personal Energy Number 2: Northwest
You are asking her for advice all the time or she is giving you advice all the time – even when you don’t appreciate it. You may always expect the help of your mother or she wants to help you all the time. You may love to travel with her.
Activation: Place an image of hands holding each other or an image of people helping each other or place an image of you and your mother on a trip. Place the image in the Northwest corner of your living room.
Personal Energy Number 3: Southeast
Your relationship with your mother is connected with money. Or she taught you how to be financially independent. Or you have a lot of challenges with her about money. You may need to take care of her on a financial level.
Activation: Place the most expensive thing you received of your mother in the Southeast or something that shows valuable.
Personal Energy Number 4: East
Family is important to you. Nature is like your second mother. You may like to work with your mother in the garden.
Activation: Place an image of you and your mother walking in nature or between the flowers of her garden.
Personal Energy Number 5 Male: Northwest
See description under Personal Energy Number 2: Northwest
Personal Energy Number 5 Female: West
See description under Personal Energy Number 8: West
Personal Energy Number 6: Southwest
Your mother relationship is the most important relationship of your life. Or your mother relationship has the most difficulties. As the Southwest is both general and personal mother corner for you, the relationship with your mother may be the relationship you will learn the most from in this life time. You might also expect every future relationship you have to take care of you as your mother did.
Activation: Place a neutral image of the ideal mother and child relationship in this corner.
Personal Energy Number 7: Northeast
Your mother is your greatest teacher. You have a very deep connection with your mother. Everything seems to go right between you and her. You see her as a saint.
Activation: Place a picture of a Divine Mother in the Northeast.
Personal Energy Number 8: West
You feel your mother is like your child and you need to take care of her. Or she expects you to take care of her. You like to play creative games with her. You have a deep soul connection with her and can speak about the questions of life with her.
Activation: Place an image of your mother playing or walking in the wind in the West.
Personal Energy Number 9: North
You don’t feel close to your mother. You feel alone and not seen by your mother. You became independent early in your life. You may not even have a picture of your mother.
Activation: Take a picture of you with your mother. Ideally the image of you and your mother would include water like a river or at a small waterfall. Don’t use a huge waterfall like Niagara waterfalls because you can’t hear each other when the noise is so loud.
5) Conclusion
I hope this has created a better understanding of your Soul lesson with your mother and what you can do to activate your environment to change the energy with your mother.
Here is a meditation for Mother’s Day that I created. But you can do this meditation each time you feel like you want to release the limitations and to strengthen the values of your mother lineage. Click on the link and download it.
https://www.yousendit.com/download/MEtRblR1cTJFd2Z2Wmc9PQ
Enjoy
Marie Diamond
[Special thanks for Marie Diamond for sharing so much information. If you enjoy what you've read her, by all means order her full Diamond Feng Shui personal learning course, which is the most comprehensive course available today on Feng Shui. Marie is also teaching a special seminar in Minnesota beginning June 1. You can learn more here.]
(Posted on May 11, 2012)
